Thinking about it…my last post is connected to this post. All of the things that we desire now is all man made. The need for wealth, beauty, status, etc. When we created the civilization that we live in along with the many temples and pyramids that were built, we also built the divide in the classes. Instead of approaching each job as being equally important to the growth of a nation we created a hierarchy, which to this day, causes us much suffering and unease. We have become attached to the materialistic nature of everything instead of the need to contribute to society. We always need more to feel that we are better than the next.
When I design, yes for somethings aesthetics plays a role but I wish to design for functionality and good design. If you have a slew of baskets in your house, have them because they have a function or because you LOVE them and they mean something to you not just because they are pretty or trendy.
Okay, I got a little of track with that last rant. Happiness is about the absence of suffering and usually that suffering comes from our attachment to one thing or another and the absence of that thing in our lives.
Becoming unplugged from the matrix is partically about becoming detached from the materialistic nature of the society that we live in.
“Growth begins when we begin to accept our own weakness” – Jean Vanier
It has been 5 months since my last post and I have learned more about life in that time than I have in the past 30 years. Honestly, growth has taken place over the past 2 to 3 years at a very rapid rate. I have learned to acknowledge and accept my weaknesses and from there I am learning to be a better person. I do not believe that one can learn to be a better person if he or she holds on to the mistakes that were once made. Those mistakes serve as a reminder of the person you once were and not the person that you wish to become. These events or lessons rather, have to become apart of my story, my history, and what makes me who I am. As I branch out and learn more about people; I learn that this is the case for many.
I began writing this blog to speak about the organization of life and home. I hoped that my story would help others to not feel so alone as they go through the life changes that I am going through now. One of the things that I have learned is that organization starts internally. The turmoil within has to be subdued so that organization can be outwardly displayed and more importantly, before if can be shared and passed along. My life has been a whirlwind of thoughts, ideas, doubts and questions; all of which I feel a strong urgency to answer and figure out. I don’t think that I have ever really been alone and because of that I have never been forced to figure things out on my own. I have come to believe that it is almost impossible to follow a path or even create a path with so much uncertainty. As I think about it; I am sure that I am not having any type of epiphany that hasn’t been had before, which is what makes this all so hard. It has all made me question why this has taken me so long to figure out. But to my relief, I am learning that this is all apart of life and to judge this experience against someone else’s dulls the experience and hides the true lesson. I have read that being able to relate to others and have others relate to you is an essential part of happiness. When people think about others and what they are going through, it should only be to relate to them and even empathize.
Life’s experiences are unique to each and everyone of us. I felt like I was playing catch up but as time went by I realized that it doesn’t matter. As long as we learn and make changes, even if it takes the lost of something or someone you love or gaining the same thing; it is a necessary event to get you where you are.
I wish that I would have finished this post the night that I began it, but even a few days later I am happy with my message. I am excited and motivated by the progress I have made so far and I anticipate my future and the future of my family.
“There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle.” – Albert Einstein
Today started with a deep self-awareness session. My time in the morning is becoming precious to me once again. For the past year I’ve just wanted to catch up on sleep. Or maybe I just wanted to sleep as I did before kids (both things being equally impossible). I think about my weekday alarm, titled Life, and how I never wake up to it. I feel really bad, if not stupid, about how long it has taken me to realize what I’m doing wrong. I think about how everyday I would wake up and get ready for work, while I was always late, I was preparing myself for the day in the mornings. Going to work, I had a timeclock and a supervisor who held me accountable for my latenesses; now its my two amazing sons and husband. While being a stay at home mom and wife is staying home, it doesnt mean it time off of work; it is certanly NOT a vacation. It’s the most important job I have ever had. My decisions directly effect others, not just staff around me or a boss that I never see; my decisions effect those that I care about the most; my husband and my children. Writing this post and publishing it online is me being accountable for my actions. If I do not stick to my goal then I have myself to answer to, and is there anyone who is tougher on you??
This realization is one of the reasons why studying life, family and organization means so much to me, why i wish to share it with others. As a mother and wife all of our actions should be altruistic. Your families happiness is your reward.
I have been given one of the few things that I have always wanted; to have a family and to raise a family. It’s so easy to focus on what you don’t have or what you’re not doing as opposed to the things that you do have and are grateful for.
With that being said, take a moment each day to make a note of the things that you are thankful for. You can write them down, type them up, or just make a mental note. Either way I think this is key to happiness; it keeps us connected to one another and it keeps our perception of life positive, while keeping our overall demeanour positive.
Today, I am thankful for:
1. My husband’s kiss.
2. My 1 year old learning his body parts.
3. My 2 year old learning manners.
No matter how small the gesture or event may seem, if you smile while typing them then you are on the right track 🙂