“Am I a good person? Deep down, do I even really want to be a good person, or do I only want to seem like a good person so that people (including myself) will approve of me? Is there a difference? How do I ever actually know whether I’m bullshitting myself, morally speaking?” – David Foster Wallace
Things that make you go hmmmm…..
That awkward moment when you realize the only thing you’ve given yourself the power to change is your hair style. Changing as a person take far more follow through. Like most things it can and should be planned. Goals should be set in the order of their importance and how likely they are to be achieved.
Thinking about it…my last post is connected to this post. All of the things that we desire now is all man made. The need for wealth, beauty, status, etc. When we created the civilization that we live in along with the many temples and pyramids that were built, we also built the divide in the classes. Instead of approaching each job as being equally important to the growth of a nation we created a hierarchy, which to this day, causes us much suffering and unease. We have become attached to the materialistic nature of everything instead of the need to contribute to society. We always need more to feel that we are better than the next.
When I design, yes for somethings aesthetics plays a role but I wish to design for functionality and good design. If you have a slew of baskets in your house, have them because they have a function or because you LOVE them and they mean something to you not just because they are pretty or trendy.
Okay, I got a little of track with that last rant. Happiness is about the absence of suffering and usually that suffering comes from our attachment to one thing or another and the absence of that thing in our lives.
Becoming unplugged from the matrix is partically about becoming detached from the materialistic nature of the society that we live in.
I read a really good blog post about monogamy, the history of marriage and possession and how it’s becoming out of place. In a time of nomads, before the idea of colonization, we as a species traveled together as basically one large family. With only having each other to depend on to survive; there was no need to go off on your own as a smaller family unit. To quote a Brave New World “Everyone belongs to everyone else.”
Once we began to colonize, staying stationary and growing as a people, structure was incorporated and a sense of status. From here we completely changed how we naturally lived. Because colonies were so small possession was a necessary evil. The need to know your offspring belonged to you, and need to live comfortably like that of royalty.
Now, as we overpopulate this world there are so many people out there. So many people that share so many of the same interest, morals and beliefs. We no longer have the need for monogamy. We live in a world were it’s okay to be a single parent and if you have a strong support system you still aren’t completely a single parent.
Monogamy is not a must any more but an option that someone may or may not choose. It should no longer be viewed as the standard because It’s no longer essential for the growth of our society(if it ever really was)…we have actually out grown the idea.
I think it takes a certain amount of heartbreak sometimes to learn how to love…when the one you love becomes that heartbreak there maybe nothing else that you can do but remember what you’ve learned as to not make the same mistake twice.
My bestfriend said that in a relationship the man has to love his women a little more because a man is a creature that feels he needs to conquer. Giving to much of yourself counterbalances the dynamic between a man and a woman.
See John Mayer – Wheel
“A promise is a comfort for a fool.”
The one thing that I desperately seek and yet the one thing that continuously gets me in trouble.